Baby number 3! Wow. I was inspired today to write about baby number 3 because there is always a shock when I tell people this baby will be born in December, close to Christmas. To be more specific, my due date is actually December 25th. Yes, December 25th. However, I will be having a c-section, YES a necessary c-section (already tried a vbac), so the birthday will definitely be before Christmas.
I have received countless comments from strangers about “OMG how awful the due date is so close to Christmas!”. At my son’s soccer game, at the obgyn’s office, shopping at Target, etc. Seriously. Yes, I am not a fan that this child’s birthday is so close to Christmas. In fact, let me tell you something even more shocking. My daughter’s birthday, my baby number 2, will be 2-3 days before this baby’s birthday/c-section date! And guess what? Both of their birthdays are within 7 days of Christmas! Oh, the horror. Yes, I don’t like it. No, I did not plan this. My son fortunately has a birthday no where near Christmas!
Baby number 3 was a surprise. Yes, I am educated and know how these things happen. I will refrain from going into specific details about how this happened, but use your imagination. I will give you this hint though. The ultrasound tech at the obgyn and the perinatal’s office both agreed that I ovulated 12 days late from my norm, which in all my years has never ever been an issue. My due date was customized based on what the ultrasound revealed, not according to my LMP.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I heard from other people about how horrible it was to have a child being due so close to Christmas, and now I’m going through it again with this baby. I remember sitting in the obgyn’s office waiting for my ultrasound, when the couple next to me was praying that their child’s due date would not be on Christmas. The pregnant lady’s mom was also attendance and she was talking about just how terrible it will be for all of them if the baby comes near Christmas. I am NOT kidding. I will say that all of these critical comments are from strangers, a few people on my Facebook from message boards, and one person who was close to me.
Now since baby number 3, you can only imagine the comments I get. I will say that I do welcome the conversation when people are nice and surprised. Heck, I’m surprised too and I get it. However, I get turned off quickly when people talk negatively about it saying “better you than me”, “how horrible”, “feel sorry for your child”, “how awful this is going to be for when December rolls around” or my favorite one, “why did you plan it this way?”. I mean seriously people??
Let me just ask…what is so horrible about it to actually point it out to a complete stranger or a friend? Yes, I don’t like all the commercialism that goes into Christmas. The fact that my children will have to open birthday presents around the time they will also get Christmas presents is not ideal. However, that is when MY job as a parent is to make sure that their birthdays are SPECIAL. I was very adamant last year and the year before to make sure all family members wrap birthday presents in BIRTHDAY paper, not Christmas paper. Most people have no problem following this rule, but we’re still working on getting everyone on board.
I should find out my official c-section date soon, which will be within 2-3 days of my daughter’s birthday. Oh, and if you are wondering, no I do not know the gender of this baby. Thanks for letting me vent today!